Shaken Baby Syndrome

A large number of child deaths are reported in South Africa each year. A lot of deaths relate to neglect, abuse or murder. Despite this, there's a knowledge gap in relation to understanding the issue....

Amniotic fluid problems

The importance of amniotic fluid Amniotic fluid is essential for pregnancy and foetal development. Amniotic fluid is a watery substances residing inside a casing called the amniotic membrane or sac. ...

Choosing a pre-school

Becoming a parent is a momentous; life-changing event filled with hopes, expectations and naturally some fears. Parents often learn and grow alongside their children, as they face the challenges of pa...

Newborn reflexes

Although newborn babies are physically helpless and vulnerable at birth, they have a number of amazing innate abilities or reflexes. Reflexes are involuntary movements or actions, designed to protect ...

Mastitis

Mastitis is an inflammation of the breast that can lead to infection. The word “mastitis” is derived from the Greek word “mastos” meaning “breasts”, while the suffix “-itis” denotes “inflammation”. Ma...

Pelvic floor exercises

Although your new baby will probably bring you immense emotional satisfaction, physically you may feel uncomfortable and strange in your own skin. After 9 months of pregnancy and hormonal changes, you...

Colic

Babies cry because they need to communicate something and most parents, especially new moms, find it distressing to see or hear an unhappy baby. In time, you will learn to recognize the various causes...

Antenatal Classes

Antenatal classes are informative sessions provided to prepare expecting parents for the birth of their child and the early days of being a parent.Most antenatal classes are run by Midwives and occasi...

Strap-in-the-Future

The Decade of Action for Road Safety 2011-2020 was launched on the 11 May 2011. It is a global declaration of war against road crashes and fatalities. According to Mr Sibusiso Ndebele, MP Minister of ...

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    Thursday, 14 May 2015 12:54
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    Tuesday, 03 March 2015 15:49
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    Tuesday, 03 March 2015 15:41
  • Pelvic floor exercises

    Wednesday, 11 February 2015 17:20
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The Grieving Process

5 stages of griefGrieving is the natural response to a loss. The more significant the loss, the more intense the grieving process. Losing a child is a devastating loss. Having a miscarriage or losing a baby during the late stage of pregnancy is a loss that is deeply personal and sometimes may be trivialised by others who have not been in the same situation.
How you grieve is unique and is dependent on many factors, for example your personality, life experience, coping style, and your belief system. Grieving takes time and there are many highs and lows for months or even years. Be patient with yourself, acknowledge your feelings and don't impose a deadline on your grief.
In 1969, well-known psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross proposed that there are five stages of grief. She developed these stages when working with terminally ill patients. The same five stages can be applied to our emotions during the grieving process.
The five stages of grief are as follows;
1. Denial – "This can't be happening to me."
2. Anger – "Who is to blame."
3. Bargaining – " I will do anything in order for this not to happen to me."
4. Depression – "I am so sad, I simply can't go on anymore."
5. Acceptance – "I am at peace with what happened"
You won't necessarily experience these stages in a neat sequential order, and often you will loop around the stages, until you have reached the acceptance stage. This may take weeks or years.
Kübler-Ross said that the stages "were never meant to help tuck messy emotions into neat packages. They are responses to loss that many people have, but there is not a typical response to loss, as there is no typical loss. Our grieving is as individual as our lives".
The following symptoms of grief are experienced by most people;
GUILT –women who have miscarried or had a stillbirth feel a tremendous amount of guilt, many times thinking " if only I had not taken that flu medication, if only I didn't go on that business trip, if only...(insert yours here).
ANGER – Even if the loss was nobody's fault you may blame yourself, your Dr, or gynaecologist. Many gynaecologists are sued. It seems to be an occupational hazard.
SHOCK & DISBELIEF – Right after a loss, it can be hard to accept what happened. You may feel numb or deny the truth.
FEAR – You may fear that you are doomed that you will never have a child. You may feel anxious, insecure, inadequate or helpless.
PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS – Grief often involves feeling sick, fatigued, gaining or losing weight, experiencing aches and pains, having a lowered immunity and having difficulties sleeping.
The single most important factor in healing from loss is having the support of other people. Family and friends should play a crucial role during this time. Some people may battle to express their sympathy and you may find support from others who have experienced a loss similar to yours more beneficial in the beginning.