Shaken Baby Syndrome

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Amniotic fluid problems

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Choosing a pre-school

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Newborn reflexes

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Mastitis

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Pelvic floor exercises

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Colic

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Antenatal Classes

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Strap-in-the-Future

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    Tuesday, 03 March 2015 15:49
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    Tuesday, 03 March 2015 15:41
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    Wednesday, 11 February 2015 17:20
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Coping with Change

Coping_with_ChangeAs a family there are often situations that arise that bring about change in our lives. There are many ways in which to deal with these situations. How we, as adults, are seen to cope with the inevitable changes and how we help our children cope is important for healthy adjustment to the new situation.

Some changes are easy and simple to deal with, other situations can have a dramatic and long term effect on the family. All types of change involve stress.

Some common changes that occur in family life;
  • Moving house
  • Going on holiday
  • Starting crèche, playgroup, nursery school etc.
  • Change in family structure, i.e. separation or divorce
  • Illness
  • New baby
  • Change in employment, i.e. loss of job or new job
  • Change in financial circumstances
  • A death in the family

Children respond to the stress of change in various ways. Sometimes changes in behaviour are imperceptible but more often, than not, with a very noticeable impact. These are some behavioural changes that may be noticed;

Increased crying, clinginess or greater separation anxiety
Withdrawn behaviour
Aggressive behaviour
Changes in appetite
Changes in sleep patterns
More sensitive and easily frustrated
Greater difficulty in being comforted
Regressive behaviour like needing a dummy again or more thumb sucking. Possibly needing nappies again after they have been toilet trained or reverting to "baby" speech.


If and when change is happening, do not leave it to the last minute to discuss it with your child. They need time to process and adjust to the idea of what will be happening, they may even need to have it explained in a different way. Some concepts, like moving house, can be quite difficult to grasp. Children are known to believe that moving house means that the existing home is changing location as opposed to going to live in a different house, in a different location. Often they need pictures and play as well as words to grasp the new concept.

Going on holiday may seem like a wonderful idea to the parents; however a child can be very disturbed by the change in rhythm of their daily routine. Be prepared for this by keeping to the home routine as much as possible whilst on holiday, same meal times, bedtimes etc. Some comfort items, like blanket and pillows can do wonders to help a child settle down on holiday.

Be patient when discussing changes that may or have occurred, as the child may need to have more than one explanation of the new situation. Talk about how you are feeling as this will help your child give words to his own feelings.

If age appropriate and if possible, keep your child involved in the situations that are changing in their lives as well as yours. This involvement will help build your child's resilience to change, giving them the ability to face change with ease.